Nostalgia

For some reason today my mind went back to the mid-80s and these three songs:

Why are major anniversaries such drivers of this sort of nonsense?

Why aren't things simpler, or more clear? Is a good life merely the avoidance of bad habits? At the age of 52 what can really change? Is it really just about harm reduction?

I think it's going to be an interesting couple of months.

Fuck or pass game

I hesitate to post this since people I like are doing it but... what the fuck? I don't get the upside and I recoil from the downside.

Gingerbear at the gym

Last week I was working out sans trainer at the Wall St gym and there was a guy who clearly needed some assistance in sorting out the proper form on a few exercises. I summoned the cloak of friendly supportiveness and asked him if he was interested in some feedback on what he was doing and he gave me an enthusiastic positive response so I helped him with sorting how to do some back exercises. We chatted a bit a few times during the afternoon.

Our friend Ken from Boston is down this weekend and his birthday is the objective reason for our summer party this upcoming Saturday. He's an afficianado of red/blond bears and this guy - Matthew is his name - fits that mode completely.

He lives in Williamsburg so he must hang with gay people. Would it be OK for me to just lay things out - I'm having a big party on Saturday with fun people many of them with facial hair, he seems like a cool guy, most of the people there will be gay, it's not a sex party but people sometimes slip away, and would he like to come? I'd leave out the part that he's an attraction target for the birthday boy but that's not an issue. There's no requirement there.

As I type this I realize that it's silly, if he's offended it's his problem. But still, I want to be a nice guy. Any feedback?