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But apparently that's not to be the case.
Oink Oink.
Oink Oink.
Jan. 3rd, 2010
Judgemental
Jan. 3rd, 2010 11:37 amDoes it make me inappropriately judgemental to say that if you don't want to do something, don't do it, and stop hating on the people who do? There's one guy on my FL on here who's a nice guy but DAMN, if it's not his way it's just wrong and only tacky sleazy people would do things that he doesn't want to do.
Jeesh.
Jeesh.
I think sex is good. I think too many preset boundaries around what sex is good and what isn't is stifling of adventure, and adventure is one of the joys of life. I also think that disrespect is bad, and at the same time people can set themselves up to complain about disrespect when none was reasonably intended.
We have had a few sex parties. Because of how we are, there was lots of food as well, but the house was set up for people to have places to have naked fun with each other. These parties were very successful.
We have had social parties where some sexual activity took place. This is also fine; the people who had sex did it out of sight of the main party spaces. I have been to social parties where there was some sexual activity (NYE, as a recent example.) It was just fun, and fit the proclivities of a number of guests.
Most of the social parties I've been do have not involved sex and there have been social parties here where none occurred. Which made sense for the people there.
I've heard comments about how RUDE it is to have sex at someone's party, and how tacky and sleazy anyone who does it is. Certainly it depends on the venue, and the other guests (nix on bathroom sex at family gatherings, and primarily straight events) but for groups of gay men I don't get what the big deal is.
I think a large part of it is that the people we invite to our home are going to be respectful about space, and not tying up the bathroom for an hour, and not leaving lubey handprints on the wall, rubbers on the floor, or using guest hand towels to wipe up their stuff after they're done stimulating it. That kind of stuff would be disrespectful but it just doesn't happen.
Maybe it's just the host in me who loves seeing people comfortable and having a good time.
I have a feeling, though, that not as many people as I would guess share this viewpoint.
Feedback would be interesting.
We have had a few sex parties. Because of how we are, there was lots of food as well, but the house was set up for people to have places to have naked fun with each other. These parties were very successful.
We have had social parties where some sexual activity took place. This is also fine; the people who had sex did it out of sight of the main party spaces. I have been to social parties where there was some sexual activity (NYE, as a recent example.) It was just fun, and fit the proclivities of a number of guests.
Most of the social parties I've been do have not involved sex and there have been social parties here where none occurred. Which made sense for the people there.
I've heard comments about how RUDE it is to have sex at someone's party, and how tacky and sleazy anyone who does it is. Certainly it depends on the venue, and the other guests (nix on bathroom sex at family gatherings, and primarily straight events) but for groups of gay men I don't get what the big deal is.
I think a large part of it is that the people we invite to our home are going to be respectful about space, and not tying up the bathroom for an hour, and not leaving lubey handprints on the wall, rubbers on the floor, or using guest hand towels to wipe up their stuff after they're done stimulating it. That kind of stuff would be disrespectful but it just doesn't happen.
Maybe it's just the host in me who loves seeing people comfortable and having a good time.
I have a feeling, though, that not as many people as I would guess share this viewpoint.
Feedback would be interesting.